Even if youve had bad experiences with the Christian belief in the past, I suggest you to just try something. First, try and make an attempt to be supportive. v. 1. Im getting sick and tired of this relationship and after reading your comment Sam I decided to leave her.. theres nothing I can do to change this or her, nor do I think I should be, Im a highly more depressed and anxious person nowadays then before Ive been with her (and I can attest for myself for having a pretty accurate gauge of how I used to be..) This is verbatim my situation. It's an affect that's truly worth noting. Dragged Down. Shell probably choose you at first but then once she goes back to try and be friends with the ex, end that shit. Here are 10 who are holding you down. She says she feels okay when she clearly doesnt, when I give her a hug during this time, she tenses up, keeps shaking her head, and really hates herself for the way she is. All I got is she is just a drama queen, there wasnt any problems to become sad. She doesnt want to leave me either, because if she does she says she will kill herself. She is in a constant state of less sad at the best of times. Very often, when one takes on the role of caretaker, it becomes such a consuming task that the caretaker loses touch with himself/herself. About me and my girlfriend! What's my issue, and what steps can or should I take that would help both her and me? Obviously it isnt making her any happier as things are.. Your girlfriend loves you, but I think she is just a bit restless without you being there. I dont mind being a caretaker.. but it has to be for someone who also cares about me. Well i have a very depressed girlfriend that i am dating at this moment which i do really love her which she is always unhappy when i go over her house. Unfortunately, there seems to be nothing I can do when she feels down. Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. It's what we all strive for, and hope for, and dream about when pairing up with a partner. Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. If, after years of treatment, she isnt getting any better, something probably needs to change. 6. She didnt even try to make the effort in keeping the conversation going and Im always the one who care about her when she doesnt give a thought about me and keep immersing herself in her depressive world. I myself am in a LDR with my girlfriend. Being long-distance, you are actually BETTER OFF than if you were local! She just dont know how to do this. From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent. Dealing with a depressed girl isnt easy and there some moments of greatness and when it happens I take full advantage of it. I really don't know the best way if breaking it to her and I don't wanna do anything that I'll regret 3 28 28 comments Add a Comment AutoModerator 8 mo. First two years went well. What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. I was two years out watching movie series to help me distract while I forced myself to eat. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. I am torn she is stunning and beautiful, cooks, looks after me but she doesnt look after herself. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. It is your life too. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. We stopped having sex last year because of her trauma. Good Luck Everyone. You are in a relationship, you two must have had a reason to be with eachother. In your head, you know it's no big deal. Am I codependent? In fact, research has shown that this feeling of insecurity may boost levels of a stress hormone, and can even lower your immune system, according to Kathleen Doheny on WebMD.com. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. And I never had a problem with that, I loved her entirely, with all of that. I was in the same situation the past three and a half years. Or sit down and plan something new to try. Also over the years I have cancelled so many plans with friends to take time to help her that I have lost contact and have become depressed myself about my loneliness. She is also currently in therapy. Sorry if I sound morbid but its devastating. I dont know what to do, I want to go out and do stuff, cant be potato couch forever. "So, yes, your relationship problems could lead you to suffering from high blood pressure." A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. Its extremely helpful to be able to read something from the person suffering from depression. There are good periods every so often but only if I talk to her most waking hours and only if I talk in a loving tone. All i see now is cold person who i love and so frustrated by the lack of intimacy. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. She has now admitted to me that she has battled with depression since she was a teenager (she is 26). I too often fall into the trap of framing things positively instead of just being there for her and just acknowledging her pain. Head up, somewhere we still exist and can grow back to be ourselves. Send a package with love letters or get some flowers delivered to her house. Totally agree with your comment. And do not try to help, just try to understand. Good Luck!! If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. I once found out my girlfriend was talking to some other guy. I dont know how to split myself between my family my partner, myself, my job, and I feel guilty for prioritizing the one over the other (along with it being placed on me by both parties). all of our arguments come from her depression and her being in a bad mood, i can only sometimes cheer her up. Exactly. Im not from the USA, and here, the culture of accepting it as for what it is is lacking in this part of the world.My bf of almost 8 years rolls his eyes, when the other me is present. Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. It may be time to step back and focus on yourself. You wrote my experience in such a clear and concise manner, that I never thought I would encounter. Dear Armand, 2. You're so shallow. I want so much to help her, but I feel like I have nothing else to give. and the thing with sex: if you are curious and want to understand: Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. Reading all these comments makes me very sad and confused. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. I think this is the best for us at this time, as I read up in this thread I see a lot of pain caused to both people as time goes on and I dont want that to happen to either of us. Talk, really talk openly without any criticism. Ive tried to think of ways to break it off that wont make her hate herself, like saying Im gay or having friends pose as drug dealers and freak her out by having them threaten me when shes around. Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. Even though we are long distance, I am finding it impossible to go on, and as I am at university, if I keep this up my grades are going to slip. I took on too much. I deserve happiness, everyone does! Youre so much less experienced and you know so much less than you think, Im not saying that as a criticism at all, Im sure youve been through more than I can imagine, but people have gone through this before and somehow got passed it to live their life for decades and decades. Im different then most I let her know I care everyday and all day but at same time I have tons of hobbies that detract from everything. You need to be comfortable with who you are. The yoyo effect lasts only so long and some people need to realize if people wont do something to help themselves there is nothing in this world you can do about it. Its hell and theres a lot of doubt in your thoughts like is it my fault, Im I the same, can I not make someone happy, am i insensitive. This makes any conversion on other topics nearly impossible or difficult until her anxieties about her health are addressed. ago Welcome to r/dating_advice! She might miss you. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. Things we fine for few months then i noticed our sex life taking the down hill road. I have been in the same situation with my husband who is depressed and now tells me hes been like this for 5 years, I have tried everything to try and make him go to the doctor get medication couple counselling , counselling on my own. And I know hes going to hate me and say I dont understand. She just takes things to seriously when i try to joke around with her which i really can see that she has a real problem to begin with. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? But I just dont know anymore. we took a break for a day, then got back together. I cant leave her though because she said she wouldnt be able to live if i left her. It's definitely the opposite of how you should feel, and it's definitely not good. But how is it possible? And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. I am now self harming and am depressed myself and still having to work 3 jobs I am now going to see a Councillor I can ill afford and I have no one to say dont go to work I will look after you. We used to talk all day, have very long calls every night, laugh a lot, play together. So are yours always casting concerned looks? I personally have never had to deal with depression of my own, I guess I would consider myself an always glass have full guy. We talked (argued) about the lack of sex and how distant we are and she said that she doesnt feel any of these feelings, and that sometimes we doesnt feel comfortable thinking about sex. Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. She clearly doesnt love you like one should love another person. If so, then high blood pressure may not be far behind. Ive dealt with people like that and let me tell you its never easy cuz there gonna try and bring you down.I mean I too have anxiety but not to the point where I freak out or go completely insane. It bothers me a lot and Ive done all I could to understand. "Healthy, happy relationships are where both partners meet each others' physical and emotional needs," says relationship etiquette expert Mara Opperman, in an interview with Bustle. my health is declining. I tried hard to keep the relationship going, but I was alone in that battle. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? If she needs the ex in her life she doesnt need you, she just wants you. I also have depression. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. Medication treats symptoms, but it doesnt address all of the problems that often underlie depression. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. When you're in a relationship and feeling depressed, two people suffer. Being active/yoga, eating healthy and drinking lots of water can help a lot a lot. its comforting to know that other couples go through the same things. We do talk through alot of things and have a somewhat open dialogue, but I still feel resentful and angry when i feel shes not there for me, something i dont seem to get over, despite wanting to. I started to be rude and aggressive. After everything I did, I have been there every single day, sharing my life with her, and pushing her away from this disease. Let her try and fix that. There has to be a time limit of when to say enough is enough. Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. There are so many ways a relationship can be unhealthy, and therefore so many ways it can drag you down. If that person still doesnt change then it may be time to leave. But you're dragging me down, yeah. Sometimes through the foggy clouds of depression its hard to see if a person really likes you, but dont worry too much. Slowly Im staying more time at home. Two nights ago after a weekend of not really talking that much as she was very down and I was super busy with work, we spoke on the phone and she told me she needed to be alone and deal with this, because her depression was the worst its ever been. You will only drag yourself down in the end. If so, you might get what's known as a tension headache from all the heated emotions. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. I could stay in bed 2 days in a row. That sounds like my issue too. It's up to you to decide how to handle that. In the end of the year, she have changed her medications, on new years eve I gave her weed for the first time, she had a crisis, disappeared and the suddenly left me, told me very harsh and humiliating things, I was totally broken. Gently but strongly. There has to be solutions. I didt wanted help, I didnt wanted to tell people how sad I am (and that I dont know why) to anyone. Smoking and drinking! Is it over? She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! Medically reviewed by Jennifer Litner, PhD, LMFT, CST By Ash Fisher on June 10, 2021. Look man its getting to the point where youre gunna have to tell some form of authority, whether it be the police or something else either way, shes gunna bring you down if nothing changes and youll become just like her in a flash. I feel really lost. If your partner isn't nice, or loving, or supportive in any way, it can leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. It drove me to breakdown myself. Yes, "envier" is a word. But I really just wanted to Thank You for your post. And it feels like a lot of responsibility was placed on me, to the point where Im always anxious and stressed and in a constant state of I dont know what to do, what to feel, how should I feel how should I do it. The best I could do for him was to let him go and wished him happy. Anyway, now we are almosr 3 yrs together and from the start of this year she finally admited being alcoholic and she started treatment process, with medications and therapy. I had a 3 month relationship with a depressed woman and it was comparable to a roller coaster ride at Disney land ups and downs it was beyond this world everything was my fault problems was created and misery was the icing on the cake. Warm regards, The reason I feel it's dragging me down is that my girlfriend's mother has always been extremely disrespectful to me. But how is it possible? Lately, Ive been becoming stronger, Ive finished my graduation, am starting to work by myself. If so, it could be that your relationship is wearing you out. Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! Im not saying what will happen, only what very possibly can. This is a painful, complicated issue, and you deserve to have support as you work on figuring out what is best for you. But she just cries on the phone and says shes fine. My girlfriend is dragging me back into depression with her own personal problems. I have a lower sex drive than hers. I Got a Secret (feat. She was not like this when we first met. Your girlfriend should know that she has the right to be an active participant in her treatment plan and to discuss changes to this plan with her clinicians. Like, a supermodel could walk by and your partner wouldn't bat at an eye. I Feel Helpless! Its gut wrenching. Look Ive been dealing with depression for years as well and yes at times i feel a bit hopeful and at other times i just want to die. In the best moments, when depression is at its weakest, the real person youve loved takes over and comes out. You're looking older but you can't be certain. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. Setup File Name: Adobe_Premiere_Pro_v23.2..69.rar. (All is Hell) i feel it but i but i just cant deal with being her friend in school and more outside, i cant do it in school. As I read your comments I am beginning to understand what my boyfriend feels. Ive been with my girlfriend for ten years, starting in college. i dont know what to do. Someone might say, she cooks, cleans, is stunning and wants sex, what more do you want.. Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. You are NOT responsible for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or others. Its dragging me down and she wont listen to me and wouldnt want to change her way of thinking for herself or anyone, I hate to say this but I realized she is actually very stubborn and selfish. I am having the same issue and the text is most definitely NOT part of an image. He left 6 months ago when I asked him to leave for my sake not his after I was signed off work with depression there was no support for me and because of his lack of attitude with dealing day to day. You have to start working on it, push things forward. She will feel a million times worse than you what about how the other side feel and how they cant cope but just have to sit and wait for them to snap out of by the time they snap out of it they could be going to their partners funeral or word they wont be able to then look after their partner. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. Good luck! If you are tired or stressed I cant do sex. thanks for everyone comments! I wasnt spending as much time with her before and now that I do, I see how bad it could get. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. She hates it when I get an attitude then why does she make me get into this attitude? She would start crying, shes wanted to leave home and then denied it the next day, I try to get her to talk about whats going on but she wont. I consider myself in recovery. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could not concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? my girlfriend has depression and is anorexic. Also, if her depression has lasted for years with no improvement, it might be time to look at changing the treatment plan. Dont worry youre not alone! Sorry to say this but its just my own opinion. Youve been shouldering a significant burden on your own for years; it sounds like you are ready to let someone help you carry the load. So the question, as you insightfully pose, is where do you go from here? Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. She also will fail in it, many times, probably hurting you, but she will go on. So its what you make of it. I love her so much, but I know Id rather deal with these issues now than a year or 2 into a relationship. Next time you feel like this world is messed, go outside and try something new. Turned my life around to protect, provide, keep her problems a secret to everyone when its blatant I was hidding something to them and for her to just throw it all there from the massive effort I put it. So Ive been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and a half, and in the past 6 months things have really become difficult for both of us. Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. I have a feeling I might just kill myself if this goes on. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. He would only talk and see me when he had nothing else to do but I was okay with that I was inlove with him. "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. I feel for you all. My boyfriend is like this, before I met him I was very depressed, self harmed, tried taking my own life but one day I met him I felt instantly happy I never felt this, however he left me for his ex girlfriend and I felt hopeless again. She probably wants you to make a call. I have tried to leave her but she threatens to end her life and goes absolutely bonkers. I love her so much and wish I could take her pain away, but I feel ive lost myself and no longer feel happy. Relationships are supposed to be about equality. Tissue Issues: My Friend Is Dragging Me Down. This could mean adding individual and/or group therapy to her treatment regimen, trying a new therapeutic approach, or making a change to her medication. Taking her depression into her own hands, can that make a person sick? So he . I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. She talks about it so much now that I dont even get shocked anymore. you're being dragged down by your partner, suddenly feel yourself worrying constantly, the balance between sleep and wakefulness, leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. Get yourself some therapy to deal with the hurt and pain, then move on with your life. Every time I look at her pics, I am immediately in love again by seeing her smile but in person all I am thinking of is an exit strategy despite all the caring in the world. Long distance, depressed girlfriend, university, feeling trapped, spending too much time and sacrificing too many things for the happiness of the other person in the relationship. I let things change for the negative and even though my instinct knew something was wrong I stuck with it because I am loyal and felt love on a certain level that I thought was worth considering. If I go out without my phone I will find I have around 20-30 messages when I get back all telling me how selfish I am for ignoring her. We r loving since 5-6 years! but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. Seems like a pattern, a thing to analyse better. I dont have depression, I want to have fun and be happy. Shes gone to therapy, but currently not going. I want her to be happy, and I hope you guys are luckier than me. I would answer, I just want to feel free and safe. Its your natural born right to be happy! The way this went down was that I got very worried and stayed up all night trying to stop her, and since then it has happened multiple times. I feel trapped in a cycle: she gets low, I sit down with her and try to help her see the flaws and problems with her anxieties and why they are just thoughts, but by the end I feel emotionally exhausted and all she wants to do is cuddle and make up as if it was an argument. I hope my thoughts are helpful in any way, Im having similar issues as many of you aforementioned. Do something romantic. It was new to me and i didnt know exactly how depressed people behave. If you haven't been feeling like yourself lately, your romance may be to blame. So it can really, truly suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. I'm not sure how to begin so I guess I'll start from the beginning. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. The envier. I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. Thank you for sharing. Shes fixates and ruminates on her health on a daily basis, and connects every ache and pain as a reflection of her perceived inability and shame around not taking care of herself, and thinks she cant trust her own mind. I feel like if I do shell ask why I havent been talking to her, she wont message me for atleast 2 days if I do. Can anyone help me and tell me what can i do?. Smoking and drinking! I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. I feel for all of you guys! She keeps saying this like Im not a good person & I dont think Ill ever stop feeling this way I have given her reassurance, saying Im here for it through the good and bad, but fuck it seems like Im talking to a brick wall sometimes. You took a leap when you wrote in with your question. I have seen suicide attempts, aggression and erratic and forceful ways of keeping me locked in the house every time I threaten to leave. If she did you would know. Most of her adult life was spent trying to stabilize from bipolarity. So both of you can benefit. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. It truly could be your relationship that's to blame. When the relationship isn't secure, however, you might feel this nagging sense of jealousy towards everything and everyone. Home Terms of Service Privacy Policy Sitemap Subscribe to The GoodTherapy Blog. I live with her in college and my exams have not been going well. In cases of chronic depression, it is very common for partners to begin to feel more like caretakers than anything else. Everything is my fault according to her. Just stay focused on your ultimate goal with her and never lose site of how she was before depression. I cant stay wit her anymore. It pisses me off. So I tried communicating a little more and making plans. She wont go to counselling nor will she take medication, she hurts herself knowing that it hurts me because it means iv failed once again to make her happy. I don't have the same motivation and drive and care about myself like I did when I was single. hello, I am this depressed girl, She experienced child sexual trauma and suffers from depression and ptsd. I asked a lot of questions to learn what the problem is, all she says that everything collapses to her. If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. Dear M, If you would like to find a mental health professional for your girlfriend, you can start finding therapists in your area by entering your city or ZIP code into the search field on this page: https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. She says its her medication but shes been on it since the age of 15 and shes 45 now, Im 42 I knew I had a little depression here and there and a bit of self destructive I dont want to go to work kinda lazy crap going on. I dont know if it is a good thing to avoid that, I am almost sure it isnt. Now dont get me wrong, I get shes depressed and I feel for her, but I used to never have outbursts in my relationship period, and by now, 8 years in, the only way to make her stop taking all of her aggressive-depression(not that shed get violent, but yell on the most absurd things)/anxieties on me is to stoop down to her level and shout back, which then makes me feel like a jerk, she (almost) never say sorry, and for everytime she yells at me, somehow at the end I have to apologize or shell frown at me forever (claiming everything is fine, but obviously is it) Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. Lately she has been responding to me uncaringly and uninterested. Best of luck to you on your journey. My girlfriend has jealousy along with paranoia, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder and some depression. Break up. 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